MARRIAGE CHOICES
for SINGLE WOMEN!!!

By Lynn Burrow

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Prince on a White Horse

Are you interested in marrying some day? Great! That's a noble and natural desire. God instituted marriage and He works through families. Most women desire to marry and to create a family. However, there are several misconceptions about marriage and about meeting a mate that must be cleared up so that women will have a clear and definite understanding about what God will and will not do in regards to your future marriage plans.

Vain Imaginations

First of all, you need to understand that God HATES vain imaginations (Romans 1:21 and 2 Corinthians 10:5).  God has shown me that single women suffer from vain imaginations more than any other group of women. One imagination that women have is the "Prince on a White Horse" belief. Many single women believe that some place tucked away in the universe is a man that God has hand-picked for them. They call this man by many names: "Divine Husband", "Faith Husband", "Soul-Mate Husband", etc. The bottom line, however, is that many single women believe that God has hand-picked a husband for them.

When a woman starts to imagine that God has magically chosen a husband for her, she engages in what the Bible calls a "vain imagination."  It is an empty imagination, not backed up by scriptures. Of all the articles that I have ever written, no article has upset single women as much as this one. This vain imagination that single women have is so serious that I am going to leave this article up for as long as this website exists! Ladies, the only "Prince on a White Horse" that you will encounter is one named Jesus Christ. God has not chosen a divine mate for you or anyone else.

Because of the man shortage that is in the land, an alarmingly large number of single women are stricken with desperation, panic, anxiety, fear and anger. Those negative emotions must be dealt with or they will destroy a woman.  When I tell women the truth---that God does not hand-pick husbands, it often snatches from them the last hope that they are guaranteed a husband. See, if God had a mate for all women, that would mean that all women will definitely marry, right? Wrong. Turn in your Bible to Isaiah 4:1 Isaiah was a prophet. Look what he said: "For seven women will take hold of one man in that day, saying "We will eat our own bread and wear or own clothes, only let us be called by your name: take away our reproach!"

There it is. There is proof that there is no way that God has a mate for all women. Look at what Isaiah said. He said that in the Last Days there would be SEVEN women for ONE man. That prophesy has come into fruition. Right now there is a severe man shortage. In the average church, you will find approximately seven to ten women for every man!  Consequently, many unmarried women are scrambling around, doing every thing possible to get a man. Many women are buying clothes for men. They are fornicating and allowing themselves to be abused and sodomized. They are allowing men to move into their homes. They are picking up bums and hoodlums from jail cells. Why? Isaiah said that they are doing it to "take away their reproach". Reproach of what? Well, these women are lonely. Their friends and family are wondering why they are still single. They are embarrassed about the fact that even though they are attractive, beautiful, educated, etc. they are in a drought. They cannot seem to find a decent mate. Many are settling for anything!

Ladies, the fact that there are SEVEN women for ONE man indicates that there is no divine mate waiting in the universe for anyone. God is not a respecter of persons. If He creates a divine mate for one woman, He is obligated to create a divine mate for ALL women. Obviously if there is a man shortage, some women are not going to ever in life marry! That is the sad reality. God certainly would not want women to share these so-called divine mates.

Women, God is not going to choose your husband for you. You are welcome to imagine otherwise; but doing so will probably land you in a position where you are eventually 60 or 70 years old and still waiting. Let's go back to the beginning. Turn in your Bible to Genesis 2:18. God indicated that "It is not good for the man to be alone". Consequently, God created a helper for the man. God would love for every woman to have the honor of being a helper to a man. God would love for every woman to be loved by a man. God made women to be helpers and to have and share love in a loving family.

However, after Adam disobeyed God in the Garden of Eden, Adam looked God in the eyes and said, "The woman whom Thou gavest to be with me, she gave me from the tree and I ate..." (Genesis 3:12).

Guess what Adam was doing? He was blaming God for the woman that God had handpicked for him. He essentially was saying, "God, it's YOUR fault that I am in trouble because you gave me this woman and she asked me to eat from the tree......" The Holy Spirit can be grieved. The Holy Spirit can be hurt. God does not enjoy being verbally abused and/or accused any more than we as humans enjoy abuse. Have you ever blamed God for a problem? There are born-again Christians blaming God for cancer, diabetes, venereal diseases, nerve diseases, mental disorders, and even death. Christians never stop to think what a horrible thing it is to blame God for their problems. What on earth could God possibly gain by putting a disease on a person? What would God gain by causing a person's death? What could He gain by sending a wife batterer to a woman? It's time to set the record straight. The devil causes destruction, marriage break ups, etc. - NOT God.

Let's look at marriage. This website receives quite a bit of mail from born-again married women. Many of them are being beaten, verbally abused, cheated on, disrespected, abandoned, and so on and so forth. Many of them are miserable. Do you seriously believe that GOD - an Omnipotent, loving God would choose a man who would hurt a woman? God forbid! There are women out here - born again Christian women who are literally being stalked and killed by their husbands. God would not be cruel enough to put a woman in such a position.

Single women can scratch, claw, curse, insult, kick, bite, and ignore this truth until they are blue in the face, but God will not change. He will not choose a mate for anyone. I receive letters from women who state, "I thought my husband was my dream man when I first met him....." I guarantee you that such women (when they first met the man) ran around telling their friends that "God" had sent them their dream man. If in fact God did send him, why then is the man being abusive? God said that a man is to treat a woman the way that Christ treats the Church. God never abused the church!

However, after the marriage, reality always sets in. Once the man starts to become mentally and/or physically abusive, the woman then turns around and says, "How could God have done this to me? Why did God send this monster into my life....?" Blaming God is easy. It was easy for Adam to blame God and we as Adam's descendants are doing the same. Blaming God is a cop-out. If a woman blames God, she then will not need to look in the mirror at herself and the awful choices she made. And yes---she made the marriage choice---God did not. 

It is offensive when women lie on God. Instead of blaming God, women need to blame satan and their own bad decisions for their situations. I am positive that in 100% of the cases, unhappily married women knew in their hearts that they should not have married certain men, but they had to have a husband at any cost, and unfortunately too many women are now on the way to divorce court. God will speak to a Christian's heart and warn her not to marry a certain person. However, He will not force her to obey Him. She must make her own choices.

There are times when God will send a relative, friend, or stranger to warn a woman not to marry a certain man. What does she do? In too many cases she says, "I KNOW God sent this man to me. I am going to marry him." Six months later she is miserable and trying to find a way out!

Is God also to blame for the fact that at least 60% of all marriages fail? If He is putting the couples together, obviously He made a mistake, right? Suddenly a perfect God has become imperfect? I don't think so!

Let's use some common sense here. God said that He is not a respecter of persons (Acts 10:34). Did God lie? Obviously some women believe God is a liar. Look at this. If in fact God were choosing husbands for women, why is it that some women are married but others are not? Why do we have a nation of single women who are yearning for a husband? Why do we have 30, 40, 50, and 60 year old women who have never been married (and many of whom will never be married)? Why would God be cruel enough to choose husbands for some women but not for others if He in fact is not a respecter of persons? It is simple. God has very little to do with marriage choices.

Let me tell you what would happen if God in fact were choosing women's husbands:

Women and men would no longer have a free will or freedom of choice. The choices would all be God’s.

Every woman and man who wanted a mate would have one because God would be doing the choosing.

No marriage would ever end or be unhappy because how could a perfect God make a mistake and match you with someone who is not right for you?

The truth of the matter is that women DO have free wills. The truth of the matter is that every person who desires a mate DOES NOT have one! The truth of the matter is that at least 60% of marriages fail because people are marrying for lust, panic, anxiety and desperation instead of an authentic need for a family life.

The Pathway 

Does God have anything at all to do with marriage choices? Actually in some cases He does. When a woman is in right standing with God and He feels she is ready, He often will send born-again Christian men into her pathway (or send her into the man’s pathway). Women should pray and ask God to start sending men into their pathways. God WILL send good men into a woman's pathway but that is where God's responsibility ends. It is up to the man to approach the woman. God will not force that man to desire the woman. We have a free will! Ladies, get ACTIVE in church. Attend church as often as those doors open. Get busy. You will hopefully be noticed and approached by a Godly man who admires your walk and obvious love of God. Also pray and ask God to help you to choose the right man. Remember, men find wives (Proverbs 18:22) and women have the option to CHOOSE whether or not they want the man (Psalms 65:4). God is telling women that they have the opportunity to CHOOSE. God is not forcing or imposing His will onto a woman.

I thank God for exposing the fact that so many women have been deceived into sitting around thinking that God is going to choose them a husband. In some societies, fathers do choose husbands for their daughters, but God does not. If God chose our mates, there would be NO divorce---and every Christian who wanted to marry would be married.

God will not choose your shoes. He won't choose your next meal. He won't choose your hairstyle. He won't choose salvation for you. He won't choose your college. He will not choose your friends. And He certainly is not going to choose your husband. That is YOUR job. God WILL, however, warn you when there is a problem with the man you are thinking about marrying. As stated earlier, He often will send men and women into each others' pathways (but not always!) If God warns you to stay away from a certain man and  you choose to ignore God, then you must live with your choice.

We are in the Last Days and many people are unable to endure sound doctrine. Many women become angry after reading this article because the truth is too much for them to bear. They waste their time writing me angry letters to try to convince me that this information in this article is wrong. Don't waste your time writing to me. This truth is difficult to endure but it is 100% factual. God does not hand-pick mates.

One last piece of proof that God does not hand pick mates is to open your eyes. Look around your church at all the beautiful Christian women who don't have a date or any prospects for a husband. Do you believe that's a mirage? Sister, that is real! Look around your place of employment and your social organizations at all the lovely Christian women who are alone, never married, and probably never will marry due to the man shortage. It is not your imagination. It is real. God doesn't pick people's mates. Look at your own life. Are you of marriageable age, yet single? Isn't that a hint that God is not going to choose your mate? You have to choose your own mate.

If any woman reading this article feels rage towards the messenger for sharing God's message, my advice for her is to take all complaints directly to the Throne Room of Heaven and remember to pray in the name of Jesus. In other words, don't write to me about this article. Talk to God about it. I stand 100% by the information in this article and He has not instructed me to take this article down!

Finally, God keeps impressing upon my heart the fact that He is not a racist. You may not marry a man from your own racial group or culture. Don't be a bigot. Consider marrying outside of your own ethnic group. God created all humans. As long as a man is in Christ, he is God's child and your "brother." Don't miss your blessing due to racist views. It is possible that God has sent a good mate into your pathway already but because of racist views, you rejected the very man who would have treated you like a queen for the rest of your life!

Well ladies, this is the Word that God wanted me to share with the single women. God desires that each of you have the desires of your heart. But God will not have you ignorant. He wants you to know the truth. You make your own choices. God LOVES you. Stay in Christ and trust that He will send wonderful choices into your pathway and that He will help you to choose the right mate.

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