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Letter # 1 You know that was probably one of the best most logical articles I have ever read. My name is Dean, I'm a guy, and I have a few girl\friends who think exactly like that (there is one man for me) They are so silly.

My ex and I broke up, we needed to sort thing out with God. Then she hooked up with another guy only week later and claims he is the one and it's from God. It's so funny because at first I believed her. Then, after 3 months when they're started sleeping in the same room together and thinking about moving in with each other I now know what a crock it is. The last time I checked God doesn't find that kind of behaviour pleasing.

Everyone is praying for her though, I ask that God blessing her with discernment. She is just so silly. Thank you and praise God that someone has finally spoken out about this.

Letter # 2 - It is so important for women to know the truth concerning this issue of
finding a mate. Unfortunately, it seems to me that too many women aren't
taking the time to make the most of their ENTIRE lives, but are being
tricked by the devil into staying glued to a false idea that's keeping them
in bondage. So many women are consumed by worldliness, that they wouldn't
recognize a potential godly mate if he held a sign saying "True Man of God."
Much of the overdriven desire to "get a man" also comes from the fact that
we (society as a whole) push adolescent girls into growing up too fast.
We're too busy trying to make them be so "cute" rather than helping them
develop their relationship with God, intelligence and natural talents.

God Bless You,
Jeff

Letter # 3 - “My god shall supply all your needs according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus” Philippians 4:19

I have never known a time when the Lord was not faithful to supply everything I needed and those things which I didn’t think I needed, and that includes a husband. I had no desire for a husband because I discovered that having a relationship with a man could hurt and destroy in ways I would never have believed possible, and I was not about to open myself up for such pain again. This man I am referring to is one I picked for myself without any help from God.

After much healing and many years, I felt that the Lord was speaking to my heart that He wanted me to marry. Needless to say, I was quite resistant- and scared. However, if this was His will for me I wanted to have ears to hear what the Lord was saying and eyes to see the direction He was leading me in. It took years to come about, and not because I pursued a marriage, but because I followed the voice of the Lord and waited on His timing. I didn’t run out seeking a mate nor did I go on many dates and try to weed out future prospects like used cars, but I waited on the Lord for His timing, His way. After much prayer for wisdom and guidance, several scriptural confirmations from the Lord and much counseling with leadership regarding what I believed was the Lord’s will, I am now married.

Not for one second do I believe that any of my thoughts involved in getting married were vain imaginings. The word ‘vain’ means worthless or futile. I serve a God who supplies everything I need or desire according to His will and working in my life. The husband he has given me is not perfect nor is our relationship, but he is everything I ever needed a mate to be. He’s not abusive, but a loving man given to much prayer, serving the Lord, and being to me what Christ is to the church. And he is God’s provision for me. He is my soul mate and my best friend.

I believe there are scriptural references to God’s concern about who we are to be yoked with and His desire to be involved in every choice we make. If He cares about every detail of our lives, why would He not care about marriage? And if He knows the hearts of all men, why would He not bother to lend me a hand in deciding one of the most serious commitments of my life when I cannot clearly see to make the right decision?

My relationship with God should never be a controversy over the choices I desire to make, but a matter of obedience to a loving God who desires to have me live an abundant life in the fullness of joy, (problems and heartaches included), and who knows far more than I can ever hope to vainly imagine. My trust is in Jesus Christ for everything.

RESPONSE from CWFJ Ministries - While the ministry is in agreement with you regarding the fact that God is concerned about who we marry, we stand firmly by our belief that under no circumstances will God choose our mate for us. He also won’t choose our salvation for us. As free agents, we make our own choices. We believe that God can and often does send acceptable mates in our direction but we must make our own choices.

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